Wednesday, July 27, 2005
The Other 90% - How to Unlock Your Vast Untapped Potential
The Other 90% - How to Unlock Your Vast Untapped Potential
© 2002 by Robert K. Cooper
Give the world the best you have and the best would come back to you. I was thinking about the most exceptional people I have known. They were the ones who kept going when others quit. The ones who found ways to do when everyone else thought couldn’t be done. I remember my parents and other adults in my hometown saying study hard and work hard. There is no passion to be found playing the small and settling for life that is less than the one you are capable of living - Nelson Mandela.
If everyone else is doing it, I don’t. That is one of the unwritten quotes I came to believe in. When we suppress our originality we lose touch with the source of our vitality and initiative. You need to regularly ask two questions. 1. What’s the most exceptional thing you have done this week? 2. What’s the most exceptional thing you will do next week? What did you do this week that made you proudest? What can you do that no one else will expect from you?
If you ask yourself right now what you did last week that was exceptional you probably have to think a while. When you establish the asking of the two questions as an integral part of you life it can change your approach to everything you do. It steadily raises your sights about what you are capable of. Every contact with life creates a gut feeling. Whenever you noticed you are comparing yourself to others change the view. How about comparing yourself to the best in yourself? In excelling you save time and energy that would have been sent comparing yourself to others and fighting others and you apply that time and energy to be your best. Your main task in life is to do what you could do best and become what you can potentially be - Eric Frost.
She listed her 5 top value words in the left margin of the page and marked the days of the week across the top of the page and she rate herself during the week by how well she lived each value that day. She noticed here reactions and observations.
Trust is an emotional strength that begins with the feeling of self-worth and purpose. We trust others when two crucial qualities are present in the relationship. First we must feel that they understand us and that they know who we really are and what really matters to us. Second we must feel that they care about us. Notice what truly matters to others.
Every human being has greatness inside somewhere, no exceptions. There are two primary energy states - tense energy and calm energy.
By sipping extra water every 20 to 30 minutes during the day you not only improve your overall health and resistance to illness but also provide a process to keep your energy and alertness levels higher. Drink ice cold water because as it reaches the stomach it stimulates increased energy production and raises alertness in brain and senses. A gallon of ice cold water requires 100 of calories of heat energy to blend with body temperature.
His number one focus was what he called Golden Greats. He realized that everyday most of us are robbed of energy and resourcefulness by chronic frustrations and small yet unresolved irritations. It’s the unattended little things that over time bring out the worst in us and drive our relationships to ruin. Begin to notice which little things really matter. Develop a similar listing to identify the little things that annoy the individual’s important to well being and future and then don’t do those things anymore.
“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself” - Ralph Waldorf Emerson.
When something is grinding you down you have to know when to pull the plug. What do your loved ones make the most about you in recent years? What part of you isn’t coming home at the end of the day? It is likely to be something small but significant. Put more life in your days.
1. Synchronized calendars.
2. Call home at teatime.
3. Come home first in minds and heart.
4. Change the way you walk through the door.
5. Eat a snack before you eat dinner.
6. Get up and move after the evening meal.
7. Remember the funniest thing that happened today.
When we over schedule family time or keep asking loved ones to defer the pleasures of daily living or their own aspirations until we make it in the work world. It assumes that the loads of our work will justify the neglected self and family.
Early evening is the time when energy plummets and vulnerability, detention and tiredness is especially high. Over half of the most damaging arguments are started or magnified within 15 minutes of people greeting each other at the end of the day.
Eat a snack before you eat dinner. It is essential to eat before you eat. It’s a good idea to choose the beverage such as hot tea, juice or healthy ice cream and then enjoy a small low fat appetizer such as vegetable pieces with cream cheese etc.
Get up and move after the evening meal. A few minutes of live physical activity at this time of the day elevates your energy level and metabolic rates just as it’s winding down.
In one study of 50 married couples by cultures found that humor accounts for 70% of the difference in happiness between couples who enjoyed life and those that didn’t.
Which of your dreams are so big that only your heart and not your head can hold them? Which of your dreams are so big that only your heart and not your head can hold them?
All of your unfinished obligations, concerns and upcoming needs must be recorded in some trusted way outside of your head so they can’t keep distracting you. Jot them down in a list leaving writing space to the right of each item to clarify your exact commitment. Is this truly important? And if so what can you do to finish it in day one. Something can be delegated or left out. By putting these things in writing you free yourself to keep your psycho what is most important of all.
We must be dreamers as well as doers. At the top of the left column write ‘My biggest boldest wish is’, your answer maybe as wild or far fetched as you can imagine. Then at the top of the right column put the heading ‘I can’t because’ and now list the reasons you won’t be able make this biggest boldest wish come true. What’s in the way and why? When I imagine making the two greatest contributions to my family, they are, when I imagined my two greatest contributions to the neighborhood or the community they are, my skills and passions could change the world if. Think about the people closest to you. Whatever they say is impossible, how do you respond to their doubts. A big dream awakens hidden capacity and drive. What’s your story or what gets you the most excited about life these days?
As Tom Keator puts it “I don’t want an epitaph on my grave stone that says ‘He would have pursued some big dreams in his life, but other people would not let him’.
We are designed to last a remarkable 120 years. Most of us die in late middle age, around age 75. I suggest that 0-20 is childhood, 20-60 is youth, 60-80 is middle age and 80 plus is senior. Every moment of our lives we are either growing or dying and it’s largely a choice not fate.
Increase your sensory awareness. Become the most curious person you know, do some things just for the fun of it, go play scrabble. You open yourself to precisely the kind of play that is led to broadened horizons, fresh perspectives, unexpected joys, some discoveries and advance learning. Post nuggets of wisdom and playful phrases on your refrigerator. Ease off on the guilt of not getting everything done. Spice the puree beans with humor. Know what makes your loved ones laugh the hardest to make it a point to keep doing those things.
We should consider every day lost in which we have not danced at least once. Start a humor library. Champion lost causes.
Stand beside a big pile of unopened mail. Decide to get some breathing space instead of opening any of it. You are feeling one of the most powerful pulls of all, the doing instinct. Next spend some time watching a cat. Cats know almost everything there is about lounging and doing nothing. Emulate what you see. Sink way into the easy chair. No sudden moves. Stretch before you jump up. Notice small things a cat would see that you would never notice before.
How about napping. Take a nap. Just for ten minutes. Let go off time, take off your watch and look at it. Decide when you want to return from getting gone. Switch off the outside world. Consider how everything you see here smell taste and touched throughout the day bombards your mind with stimulation. Come up for air, think of some thing funny. Imagine being at your favorite hideout doing nothing at all. Get the big picture. Take a few seconds to acknowledge by getting gone really matters. “You can’t have everything, where would you put it?” - Mark Twain.
As aged men put it, life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. We must understand that there could be no life without risk. My grandfather said great trees grow strongest when it’s exposed to powerful winds from time to time.
When learning about life and people make no more assumptions than are absolutely necessary. Don’t take things personally – someone is always going to be mad at you and that’s okay. What other people convey is really about you instead it’s almost always about them. Don’t gossip about others. Talk straighter than you have to, if you believe in something do it, don’t just say it. Ban gossip beginning with you, when you hear yourself or others talking about individuals who are not present take your full attention. I like to not talk about anyone who is not here. I am concerned with making faulty assumptions. If you are concerned about another person’s motives or intentions I want to ask them directly before we talk about it.
Angels don’t worry about you they believe in you. Angels don’t try to fix everything particularly life’s lessons. Angelic things I have done, angels I have encountered. Make unreasonable requests of yourself. Say no to the drug of gradualness. It was Martin Luther King, Jr. who spoke out strongly against making slow changes either we risk or we don’t get that, either we change or we don’t. There is no acceptable middle ground because it rolls into complacency.
Lasting changes rarely occur when we ease our way into the future. They come when we leap. The leaps themselves could be small or large. Once we take action we see things differently and for many of us there is no going back, when you find a back door that’s open close it.
Use the rocking chair image. Whenever you would notice that I was balky at taking some relatively small risks, my grandfather used to say “Robert, imagine you are 95 years old and sitting in a rocking chair looking back across your life. How would you want others to remember you for ignoring or accepting what’s in front of you right now today? Do you have the guts to keep challenging your edges? The ultimate goal in life is not a grand monument or eloquent epitaph but to live on in the hearts of those still alive.”
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/060980880X
© 2002 by Robert K. Cooper
Give the world the best you have and the best would come back to you. I was thinking about the most exceptional people I have known. They were the ones who kept going when others quit. The ones who found ways to do when everyone else thought couldn’t be done. I remember my parents and other adults in my hometown saying study hard and work hard. There is no passion to be found playing the small and settling for life that is less than the one you are capable of living - Nelson Mandela.
If everyone else is doing it, I don’t. That is one of the unwritten quotes I came to believe in. When we suppress our originality we lose touch with the source of our vitality and initiative. You need to regularly ask two questions. 1. What’s the most exceptional thing you have done this week? 2. What’s the most exceptional thing you will do next week? What did you do this week that made you proudest? What can you do that no one else will expect from you?
If you ask yourself right now what you did last week that was exceptional you probably have to think a while. When you establish the asking of the two questions as an integral part of you life it can change your approach to everything you do. It steadily raises your sights about what you are capable of. Every contact with life creates a gut feeling. Whenever you noticed you are comparing yourself to others change the view. How about comparing yourself to the best in yourself? In excelling you save time and energy that would have been sent comparing yourself to others and fighting others and you apply that time and energy to be your best. Your main task in life is to do what you could do best and become what you can potentially be - Eric Frost.
She listed her 5 top value words in the left margin of the page and marked the days of the week across the top of the page and she rate herself during the week by how well she lived each value that day. She noticed here reactions and observations.
Trust is an emotional strength that begins with the feeling of self-worth and purpose. We trust others when two crucial qualities are present in the relationship. First we must feel that they understand us and that they know who we really are and what really matters to us. Second we must feel that they care about us. Notice what truly matters to others.
Every human being has greatness inside somewhere, no exceptions. There are two primary energy states - tense energy and calm energy.
By sipping extra water every 20 to 30 minutes during the day you not only improve your overall health and resistance to illness but also provide a process to keep your energy and alertness levels higher. Drink ice cold water because as it reaches the stomach it stimulates increased energy production and raises alertness in brain and senses. A gallon of ice cold water requires 100 of calories of heat energy to blend with body temperature.
His number one focus was what he called Golden Greats. He realized that everyday most of us are robbed of energy and resourcefulness by chronic frustrations and small yet unresolved irritations. It’s the unattended little things that over time bring out the worst in us and drive our relationships to ruin. Begin to notice which little things really matter. Develop a similar listing to identify the little things that annoy the individual’s important to well being and future and then don’t do those things anymore.
“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself” - Ralph Waldorf Emerson.
When something is grinding you down you have to know when to pull the plug. What do your loved ones make the most about you in recent years? What part of you isn’t coming home at the end of the day? It is likely to be something small but significant. Put more life in your days.
1. Synchronized calendars.
2. Call home at teatime.
3. Come home first in minds and heart.
4. Change the way you walk through the door.
5. Eat a snack before you eat dinner.
6. Get up and move after the evening meal.
7. Remember the funniest thing that happened today.
When we over schedule family time or keep asking loved ones to defer the pleasures of daily living or their own aspirations until we make it in the work world. It assumes that the loads of our work will justify the neglected self and family.
Early evening is the time when energy plummets and vulnerability, detention and tiredness is especially high. Over half of the most damaging arguments are started or magnified within 15 minutes of people greeting each other at the end of the day.
Eat a snack before you eat dinner. It is essential to eat before you eat. It’s a good idea to choose the beverage such as hot tea, juice or healthy ice cream and then enjoy a small low fat appetizer such as vegetable pieces with cream cheese etc.
Get up and move after the evening meal. A few minutes of live physical activity at this time of the day elevates your energy level and metabolic rates just as it’s winding down.
In one study of 50 married couples by cultures found that humor accounts for 70% of the difference in happiness between couples who enjoyed life and those that didn’t.
Which of your dreams are so big that only your heart and not your head can hold them? Which of your dreams are so big that only your heart and not your head can hold them?
All of your unfinished obligations, concerns and upcoming needs must be recorded in some trusted way outside of your head so they can’t keep distracting you. Jot them down in a list leaving writing space to the right of each item to clarify your exact commitment. Is this truly important? And if so what can you do to finish it in day one. Something can be delegated or left out. By putting these things in writing you free yourself to keep your psycho what is most important of all.
We must be dreamers as well as doers. At the top of the left column write ‘My biggest boldest wish is’, your answer maybe as wild or far fetched as you can imagine. Then at the top of the right column put the heading ‘I can’t because’ and now list the reasons you won’t be able make this biggest boldest wish come true. What’s in the way and why? When I imagine making the two greatest contributions to my family, they are, when I imagined my two greatest contributions to the neighborhood or the community they are, my skills and passions could change the world if. Think about the people closest to you. Whatever they say is impossible, how do you respond to their doubts. A big dream awakens hidden capacity and drive. What’s your story or what gets you the most excited about life these days?
As Tom Keator puts it “I don’t want an epitaph on my grave stone that says ‘He would have pursued some big dreams in his life, but other people would not let him’.
We are designed to last a remarkable 120 years. Most of us die in late middle age, around age 75. I suggest that 0-20 is childhood, 20-60 is youth, 60-80 is middle age and 80 plus is senior. Every moment of our lives we are either growing or dying and it’s largely a choice not fate.
Increase your sensory awareness. Become the most curious person you know, do some things just for the fun of it, go play scrabble. You open yourself to precisely the kind of play that is led to broadened horizons, fresh perspectives, unexpected joys, some discoveries and advance learning. Post nuggets of wisdom and playful phrases on your refrigerator. Ease off on the guilt of not getting everything done. Spice the puree beans with humor. Know what makes your loved ones laugh the hardest to make it a point to keep doing those things.
We should consider every day lost in which we have not danced at least once. Start a humor library. Champion lost causes.
Stand beside a big pile of unopened mail. Decide to get some breathing space instead of opening any of it. You are feeling one of the most powerful pulls of all, the doing instinct. Next spend some time watching a cat. Cats know almost everything there is about lounging and doing nothing. Emulate what you see. Sink way into the easy chair. No sudden moves. Stretch before you jump up. Notice small things a cat would see that you would never notice before.
How about napping. Take a nap. Just for ten minutes. Let go off time, take off your watch and look at it. Decide when you want to return from getting gone. Switch off the outside world. Consider how everything you see here smell taste and touched throughout the day bombards your mind with stimulation. Come up for air, think of some thing funny. Imagine being at your favorite hideout doing nothing at all. Get the big picture. Take a few seconds to acknowledge by getting gone really matters. “You can’t have everything, where would you put it?” - Mark Twain.
As aged men put it, life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. We must understand that there could be no life without risk. My grandfather said great trees grow strongest when it’s exposed to powerful winds from time to time.
When learning about life and people make no more assumptions than are absolutely necessary. Don’t take things personally – someone is always going to be mad at you and that’s okay. What other people convey is really about you instead it’s almost always about them. Don’t gossip about others. Talk straighter than you have to, if you believe in something do it, don’t just say it. Ban gossip beginning with you, when you hear yourself or others talking about individuals who are not present take your full attention. I like to not talk about anyone who is not here. I am concerned with making faulty assumptions. If you are concerned about another person’s motives or intentions I want to ask them directly before we talk about it.
Angels don’t worry about you they believe in you. Angels don’t try to fix everything particularly life’s lessons. Angelic things I have done, angels I have encountered. Make unreasonable requests of yourself. Say no to the drug of gradualness. It was Martin Luther King, Jr. who spoke out strongly against making slow changes either we risk or we don’t get that, either we change or we don’t. There is no acceptable middle ground because it rolls into complacency.
Lasting changes rarely occur when we ease our way into the future. They come when we leap. The leaps themselves could be small or large. Once we take action we see things differently and for many of us there is no going back, when you find a back door that’s open close it.
Use the rocking chair image. Whenever you would notice that I was balky at taking some relatively small risks, my grandfather used to say “Robert, imagine you are 95 years old and sitting in a rocking chair looking back across your life. How would you want others to remember you for ignoring or accepting what’s in front of you right now today? Do you have the guts to keep challenging your edges? The ultimate goal in life is not a grand monument or eloquent epitaph but to live on in the hearts of those still alive.”
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/060980880X
