Wednesday, July 27, 2005
The Little Guide to Happiness - How to Smile Again
The Little Guide to Happiness - How to Smile Again
© 2002 by Michael Kevin Naselli
Negativity is a cancer.
Here are five misconceptions to happiness - Hoping, making a lot of money, other people, obtaining goals, positive thinking.
You brainwashed yourself to think you are unhappy; you change yourself to focus on the negative and ignore the positive. You lack peace of mind. Those darned tapes in your head keep looping back all those ingrained messages of gloom. You are focused on the bad and that takes away your ability to see the good. Your mind is like that. It is a video camcorder. It records what you focus on. What negative thoughts are making me unhappy or afraid? Better to ask right questions that have proactive answer, don’t you think? Ask questions like how can I succeed? But if you think how I can win, or if I was a winner what would be some of the reasons.
Remember your brain is a search engine. Ask it why am I happy and it will find reasons. In other words, always pick out positives; never dwell in the negative. Hatred and revenge are also horrible paths to unhappiness. When you were constantly plotting on getting back at the person who wronged, what are you thinking about most? You are thinking about the wrong they did of course. You are also making a list in your head of ways to get them. People, who hold grudges and cannot forgive, cannot be happy. When you hold grudges and do not forgive it hurts you or you are constantly focused on how terrible your dad was to you when you were a child and how you will never ever forgive him. You are forcing your mind to relive it over and over again. This is why forgiveness is the key to inner peace.
Stay away from negative people. Also, in regards to physiology, exercise makes you feel better. It raises endurance in the body that makes us feel good. You are more energetic and competent. Eating right also plays a role in this. Drink plenty of water. Winston Churchill said never, never, never, never, ever give up.
Stop worrying about what others think about you. Start concentrating on what parts of them you do like. This focuses your mind on the positive and takes your worry off of you. Do not over analyze things. Take life at face value. Be grateful. Always be grateful. Have you ever heard the saying count your blessings? Well do it, literally. Everyday make a list of ten things you are grateful for. Don’t you realize the power you have? You can create anything you want in your mind. You can make a heaven into hell or hell into heaven depending on how you perceive it in your mind.
Don’t complain or look for sympathy. Nobody likes a whiner. Focusing on the negatives makes you miserable. You can find something good that you can focus on. You know the type; my father was verbally abusive and it ruined my life. They are like 30 now and still whining and still unhappy. Don’t blame others. In fact dwelling on what others did to you will only make you miserable because you are focusing on that and know this, ultimately when it comes to being unhappy you put it there and it wasn’t them. You are in control of your mind and not them. Holding grudges only makes you dwell on bad and dwelling on bad makes you focus on bad.
You are miserable because your view of people is so judgmental and critical. All you see is flaws. Not being able to look in the mirror and say I like this person, I am a good person and I am proud of myself is the nail on the coffin to a fulfilling life. Liking yourself is a prerequisite to happiness. Be good to yourself. Never seek out the sympathy of others. Don’t be throwing any more pitty parties. Jealousy stinks. Start envying someone. Here is a great way to drop your mood into the toilet. Start concentrating on how much better off that person is than you, “I wish I had his house, his wife, his car, his luck, his fortune, his money, his popularity”. It always says not to covet. When you start wanting you are forcing your mind through a search engine to think up all the things you don’t have. That in turn makes you feel horrible.
Worry is waste.
Whenever you find yourself worrying catch yourself and ask your mind what solutions are there to this temporary glitch. When you start concentrating on solution the voice starts to dwindle. Sometimes we get so blinded in our quest for the holy glow of joy that when it is staring us in the face we miss it literally. The secret of happiness is this – let your interests be wide as possible and let your reaction to the things in persons that interest you be as far as possible friendly rather than hostile. People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Be happy with what you have and are; be generous with both and you won’t have to hunt for happiness. Happiness depends upon us. When one door of happiness closes another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. The happy man is not he who seems best to others but who seems best to himself - the art of being happy in life and the power of extracting happiness from common things. The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.
For every minute you are angry you lose 60 seconds of happiness.
Happiness consists not of having but of being; not of possessing but of enjoying. It is the warm glow of a heart at peace with its self.
Happiness, it lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thought.
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
The human being still needs to accomplish, to achieve, and to triumph to be happy.
If you want happiness for an hour take a nap; if you want happiness for the day go fishing; if you want happiness for a year inherit a fortune; if you want happiness for lifetime help somebody.
It is the cheapest point of happiness that a man is willing to be what he is.
I have learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and not on our circumstances.
Pleasure comes from without and joy comes from within.
The place to be happy is here; the time to be happy is now. The way to be happy is to make others so.
Nobody really cares if you are miserable so you might as well be happy.
Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy but this is not accurate.
You make yourself unhappy.
Smiling is infectious; you catch it like the flu. A single smile just like mine could travel around the earth. Let’s starts an epidemic quick and get the world infected.
There are hundreds of languages in the world but a smile speaks them all.
There is only one way to happiness and that is quit worrying about things, which are beyond the power of our will.
Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.
Cancel all negative, destructive, fearful, and unhappy thoughts.
These two types of thoughts cannot coexist if you want to share in the abundance that surrounds us all.
True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done and the zest of creating things new.
True happiness is to enjoy the present without anxious dependence upon the future.
Try to make at least one person happy every day.
Count off if you can the treasure of happiness that you would dispense in a week, in a year, in a lifetime.
The word happiness would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.
We are happy when we are growing.
The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.
Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values. The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.
Happiness depends upon ourselves.
Happiness is when you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends only on what you think. If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.
They all attain perfection when they find joy in their work.
A cheerful heart is good medicine. Fallen leaves lying on the grass in the November sun brings more happiness than the daffodil.
The most unhappy of all man is he who believes himself to be so.
I can sympathize with people’s pain but not with their pleasures.
There is something curiously boring about somebody else’s happiness.
The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular cause for being happy except that they are so.
Happiness to some elation is to others mere stagnation.
Ask yourself whether you are happy and you cease to be so.
There is no cure for births and deaths save to enjoy the interval.
A lifetime of happiness - no man alive could bear it. It would be hell on earth.
We have no more right to consume happiness without producing it than to consume wealth without producing it.
Ignorance is blessed.
I don’t what this means but I am happy.
To me every hour of the day and night is an unspeakably perfect miracle.
The mind has its own place and in itself you can make heaven of hell and hell of heaven.
The happiness of this life depends less on what befalls you, but on the way in which you take it.
Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the night.
A man who has the physical being is always turn toward the outside think that his happiness lies outside him, finally turns inward and discovers that the source is within him.
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/140332557X
© 2002 by Michael Kevin Naselli
Negativity is a cancer.
Here are five misconceptions to happiness - Hoping, making a lot of money, other people, obtaining goals, positive thinking.
You brainwashed yourself to think you are unhappy; you change yourself to focus on the negative and ignore the positive. You lack peace of mind. Those darned tapes in your head keep looping back all those ingrained messages of gloom. You are focused on the bad and that takes away your ability to see the good. Your mind is like that. It is a video camcorder. It records what you focus on. What negative thoughts are making me unhappy or afraid? Better to ask right questions that have proactive answer, don’t you think? Ask questions like how can I succeed? But if you think how I can win, or if I was a winner what would be some of the reasons.
Remember your brain is a search engine. Ask it why am I happy and it will find reasons. In other words, always pick out positives; never dwell in the negative. Hatred and revenge are also horrible paths to unhappiness. When you were constantly plotting on getting back at the person who wronged, what are you thinking about most? You are thinking about the wrong they did of course. You are also making a list in your head of ways to get them. People, who hold grudges and cannot forgive, cannot be happy. When you hold grudges and do not forgive it hurts you or you are constantly focused on how terrible your dad was to you when you were a child and how you will never ever forgive him. You are forcing your mind to relive it over and over again. This is why forgiveness is the key to inner peace.
Stay away from negative people. Also, in regards to physiology, exercise makes you feel better. It raises endurance in the body that makes us feel good. You are more energetic and competent. Eating right also plays a role in this. Drink plenty of water. Winston Churchill said never, never, never, never, ever give up.
Stop worrying about what others think about you. Start concentrating on what parts of them you do like. This focuses your mind on the positive and takes your worry off of you. Do not over analyze things. Take life at face value. Be grateful. Always be grateful. Have you ever heard the saying count your blessings? Well do it, literally. Everyday make a list of ten things you are grateful for. Don’t you realize the power you have? You can create anything you want in your mind. You can make a heaven into hell or hell into heaven depending on how you perceive it in your mind.
Don’t complain or look for sympathy. Nobody likes a whiner. Focusing on the negatives makes you miserable. You can find something good that you can focus on. You know the type; my father was verbally abusive and it ruined my life. They are like 30 now and still whining and still unhappy. Don’t blame others. In fact dwelling on what others did to you will only make you miserable because you are focusing on that and know this, ultimately when it comes to being unhappy you put it there and it wasn’t them. You are in control of your mind and not them. Holding grudges only makes you dwell on bad and dwelling on bad makes you focus on bad.
You are miserable because your view of people is so judgmental and critical. All you see is flaws. Not being able to look in the mirror and say I like this person, I am a good person and I am proud of myself is the nail on the coffin to a fulfilling life. Liking yourself is a prerequisite to happiness. Be good to yourself. Never seek out the sympathy of others. Don’t be throwing any more pitty parties. Jealousy stinks. Start envying someone. Here is a great way to drop your mood into the toilet. Start concentrating on how much better off that person is than you, “I wish I had his house, his wife, his car, his luck, his fortune, his money, his popularity”. It always says not to covet. When you start wanting you are forcing your mind through a search engine to think up all the things you don’t have. That in turn makes you feel horrible.
Worry is waste.
Whenever you find yourself worrying catch yourself and ask your mind what solutions are there to this temporary glitch. When you start concentrating on solution the voice starts to dwindle. Sometimes we get so blinded in our quest for the holy glow of joy that when it is staring us in the face we miss it literally. The secret of happiness is this – let your interests be wide as possible and let your reaction to the things in persons that interest you be as far as possible friendly rather than hostile. People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Be happy with what you have and are; be generous with both and you won’t have to hunt for happiness. Happiness depends upon us. When one door of happiness closes another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. The happy man is not he who seems best to others but who seems best to himself - the art of being happy in life and the power of extracting happiness from common things. The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.
For every minute you are angry you lose 60 seconds of happiness.
Happiness consists not of having but of being; not of possessing but of enjoying. It is the warm glow of a heart at peace with its self.
Happiness, it lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thought.
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
The human being still needs to accomplish, to achieve, and to triumph to be happy.
If you want happiness for an hour take a nap; if you want happiness for the day go fishing; if you want happiness for a year inherit a fortune; if you want happiness for lifetime help somebody.
It is the cheapest point of happiness that a man is willing to be what he is.
I have learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and not on our circumstances.
Pleasure comes from without and joy comes from within.
The place to be happy is here; the time to be happy is now. The way to be happy is to make others so.
Nobody really cares if you are miserable so you might as well be happy.
Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy but this is not accurate.
You make yourself unhappy.
Smiling is infectious; you catch it like the flu. A single smile just like mine could travel around the earth. Let’s starts an epidemic quick and get the world infected.
There are hundreds of languages in the world but a smile speaks them all.
There is only one way to happiness and that is quit worrying about things, which are beyond the power of our will.
Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.
Cancel all negative, destructive, fearful, and unhappy thoughts.
These two types of thoughts cannot coexist if you want to share in the abundance that surrounds us all.
True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done and the zest of creating things new.
True happiness is to enjoy the present without anxious dependence upon the future.
Try to make at least one person happy every day.
Count off if you can the treasure of happiness that you would dispense in a week, in a year, in a lifetime.
The word happiness would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.
We are happy when we are growing.
The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.
Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values. The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.
Happiness depends upon ourselves.
Happiness is when you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends only on what you think. If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.
They all attain perfection when they find joy in their work.
A cheerful heart is good medicine. Fallen leaves lying on the grass in the November sun brings more happiness than the daffodil.
The most unhappy of all man is he who believes himself to be so.
I can sympathize with people’s pain but not with their pleasures.
There is something curiously boring about somebody else’s happiness.
The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular cause for being happy except that they are so.
Happiness to some elation is to others mere stagnation.
Ask yourself whether you are happy and you cease to be so.
There is no cure for births and deaths save to enjoy the interval.
A lifetime of happiness - no man alive could bear it. It would be hell on earth.
We have no more right to consume happiness without producing it than to consume wealth without producing it.
Ignorance is blessed.
I don’t what this means but I am happy.
To me every hour of the day and night is an unspeakably perfect miracle.
The mind has its own place and in itself you can make heaven of hell and hell of heaven.
The happiness of this life depends less on what befalls you, but on the way in which you take it.
Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the night.
A man who has the physical being is always turn toward the outside think that his happiness lies outside him, finally turns inward and discovers that the source is within him.
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/140332557X
